Man oh Manischewitz! Christians just can’t seem to stop arguing over what scriptures mean by love. Particularly Christian love and how that should reflect God’s love. Of course, our love can never fully reflect God’s love because we are only human, we cannot love perfectly like God can. We are not holy. To be truly holy would mean to love perfectly.
Anyway, what do I know? Not much. But let’s revisit what two of God’s apostles once had to say on the subject of love. First let’s check in with St. John;
God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.
We, though, are going to love—love and be loved. First we were loved, now we love. He loved us first.
If anyone boasts, “I love God,” and goes right on hating his brother or sister, thinking nothing of it, he is a liar. If he won’t love the person he can see, how can he love the God he can’t see? The command we have from Christ is blunt: Loving God includes loving people. You’ve got to love both. (1 John 4, The Message)
And what does loving both God and our fellow man look like? St. Paul sums it up pretty thoroughly, at times telling us what love does not look like:
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.
When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.
We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!
But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. (1 Corinthians 13, The Message)
A very wise woman (my wife) once said that to ‘hate the sin but love the sinner’ is often just double speak meant to obscure the fact that we usually do both; hate the sinner along with his sin. At the very least this little ditty gives us permission to act like we hate the sinner, while professing to do so out of love.
So, if you think it is loving to deliberately offend and insult those whom you believe do not ‘get’ the Gospel, well then perhaps it is you who does not ‘get it’. Unless, of course, you can somehow justify ignoring the (admittedly uncomfortable) message in the above two scriptures.